- I don't like feeling stupid. And if you are able to surprise me, then I must have missed something. Ergo, stupid.
- I am VERY jumpy and I don't like being scared. I can't stand scary movies, I usually scream or swear (or both) in a suspenseful movie when something explodes/jumps out/leaps on something. My friends know that sneaking up on me will illicit foul language and anger in swift order. They still think it's funny.
- I would rather anticipate happy events than be surprised by them - it makes the enjoyment of them last longer. For instance, if my bff in Vancouver showed up on my doorstep, I'd be thrilled of course. But if I knew about it in advance, I'd be able to look forward to it and savour the fun we'd have. And to be honest, I'd be able to plan. I'm a big fan of planning.
Last year on my birthday my department decorated the area outside my office, got me to wear a Princess sash and tiara, had fancy cupcakes, and generally did a lovely job making me feel special.
|This is me, peaking around the corner to check for|
any "surprises" that might cause me to say something
This year they toned it down - I came out of my office at 11:30 and found 20 or so of my team waiting for me with the Best Birthday Cake of All Time (Baskin Robbins Jamocha Almond Fudge) and a card. It was wonderful! And yet... like last year, I felt a tad awkward.
|Jamocha Almond Fudge. There is no better ice cream cake IMHO.|
This is what I think people are like when they REALLY REALLY like surprises:
So I figured it out. What I really like is serendipity (GW): the occurrence or development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way. By definition, there's no potential for negative here. For instance, I love being surprised by good news, a unique and/or unexpected gift, running into a friend in an unexpected place, or finding money in last spring's coat pocket. Those are all surprises in a way, but a subset, I suppose.
But mostly? This is the only kind of surprise I think is funny: